Thursday, June 6, 2013

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. 
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Little Miss @ SG

May 23-26, 2013 | Singapore & Malaysia|First timer, baby!

WARNING: Long post aheaaaaad!!!

Finally, after a week, I finally reserved this day to blog. I have been very busy at work these past few days so I haven’t got the chance to do so. So here I am, trying my best to make this entry as interesting as possible.

Exactly last week, I, together with my fellow Burnetters (LB employees) went to Singapore for our annual company trip. The perks of being employed, you gotta chance to go out of town or out of the country, with all expense paid! Love it!


Trivia: That’s actually my first time to ride a plane and go outside the country. Whoo! I’m always inlove with firsts!

Having said that that’s my first time in plane, I couldn’t help but to feel excited as we board in the plane and waited for it to take off. I wouldn’t mind being groggy because I’ve been sleepless for more than 48hours. Well I guess my plane experience goes to a separate entry. Haha!

We reached Changi Airport (Singapore Airport) around 9am. Upon arrival, we immediately start our on the spot itinerary and plan on where to go on our first day. Let the adventure begin!!!!

We first went to Ang Mo Kio to meet Ms. Babes’ friend. Instant tour guide, ayos! Haha! There, we started to explore the entire Ang Mo Kio and shop and shop and shop. Shopping at day 1 is good! Terribly good! I was able to buy lots of chocolates, perfumes and some shirts. It was late afternoon when we reached Orchard Hotel (our instant home in SG). After taking a bath, I join some of the co-workers to meet their friend, Ms. Riza,at Vivo City, sponsored Dinner, babbbbbyyyyy!!!! ‘Twas past 12 when we reached OH. Quota sa day 1!




What’s good in SG is that you’ll still feel safe wherever you are. People are actively awake and having parties or shopping even at night. Annnnd!!! Public transportation is good. The bullet train is the most accessible public means of transportation. Bullet kung bullet, ang bilis!

Let’s work it on Day 2!!!

We woke up as early as 6am to make our Day 2 more productive than day 1. We went to Lego Land Malaysia for our side trip. It’s a newly opened amusement park in Malaysia. A theme park made of legoooossssss!!!! Here are some of the pictures:





















But just like what I’ve said, Day 2 is going to be more productive than day 1. After the tiring Lego Land experience, mother Riclets and I decided to relax for a while. So we spend some time to swim. O diba, hindi pwedeng petix, productive pa din dapat! :D After swimming, we had dinner and head to Marina Bay Sands.


Marina Bay Sands is an Integrated Resort fronting Marina Bay in Singapore. Developed by Las Vegas Sands, it is billed as the world's most expensive standalone casino property at S$8 billion, including cost of the prime land – MarinaBaySands.com

Wasn’t able to take a good shot from our cam, so forgive me for this googled photos. Dontchaworry, credits are mentioned. J

We also went to the main mall and visited the sky garden where we watched the water show at the bay. Damn, sky garden is such a romantic place to have a date. Sweet! From the garden, you can see the entire city. Lights are everywhere that makes it more romantic!

Day 3 is Universal Studios day! 






























I haven’t got the chance to try all the rides and show in Universal. USS is jam-packed that time, so falling in line is really time consuming. Good thing I was able to ride one of the most recommended rides, the Transformers Ride! Maaaaaan, the experience is really awesome!!!! Aside from the Transformers Ride, I also experienced their Jurassic Water Park. Coool!

After the Universal Studios visit, we also explore Sentosa and Resorts World. Right after the company dinner, we headed to Lucky Plaza for the last minute shopping. Quota na talaga!!!

The following day, lunch time was my scheduled flight back to Philippines. Oh, how I miss home!

The total experience is fun and tiring. But I enjoyed a lot! Another experience comes with new memories. Another first and more firsts to go! The next time I’ll be back to SG, I wanted it to be with my family, friends or Kevin. I still have lots of places to visit. It’ll be the best when I’m with my loved ones.

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